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[aero_dienamic]

[[It has been a good couple of weeks since the experiment with being a family. Even mother's day had passed by, much to Val's unnoticing. She'd been distracted from life at home, mostly looking into, and around, this marriage thing.

She didn't get it. Of course, she hadn't considered going to read a book on it, but, she also assumed that wouldn't get her anywhere either.

Well, two weeks is plenty of procrastination on this topic... Though, surely her silence and pondering might've caused some concern with Kirimi and Neliel.]]

I'm sorry to be a bother while everyone's busy greeting the New Feathers, but I want to ask something. What's the purpose of marriage? I understand that it's what two people do when they love eachother enough, but, what makes it any different from being a boyfriend, or girlfriend.

Honestly, if you truly have no desire to be apart from the one you love, why is that something people resort too?

I suppose this last experiment left me a little confused about the subject. Not that... I'm opposed, mind you... That is... marrying Nel, but... I don't know why it's necessary...

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[daisy023]

[...Well, it's been a while since Daisy has heard of Val. Still on the mountains, the ponders for a moment if she should reply, considering she made this trip to get away from everyone.

But remembers that Kippin told her that isn't quite the way to go.

She draws out her pen because, while she's been out of contact for over a week or so, she also has a thing for philosophy.]


Marriage is a social union between two partners, established as a formal contract for several reasons: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious. It's a legal way to share property, have a pact of intimacy, and bear legimitate offspring. [Beat.] Though in modern ages onwards ilegitimate children aren't frowned upon.

In old times, marriage was not forged by love, but arranged as a form of social and economical union between two families when both son and daughter were young. Love would come in later, by the bond both partners eventually forged when living under the same roof.

[She stops for a moment... Val may not notice it, but beyond the book definition, Daisy-023 has little understanding of it either, but she continues.]

In my world and age, marriage is agreed upon by two consenting adults, independent of the opinions and actions of other members of their families. It's an expression of loyalty in the filial sense, and in the legal one it is a pact of sharing and cohabitation. That the person will be the only one you treat in a truly romantic manner from that day forward. It's a way of showing that you belong to that person.

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[derek-bliss.livejournal.com]

Pretty much everything the first responder said, right down to the reasons in the past, with the added bit that when the whole thing first started up, it was as much of a way for the male part of the partnership to claim obvious ownership of the female, since women were still considered property at that point.

Currently though, at least where I'm from, it's both an expression of love and intent to stay with the person for the entirety of both of your lives, as well as a legal contract to ensure that if one of you dies, the other person can still retain all rights to any property and money left behind by the deceased.

Lot of people don't bother with it, though, even though there's still a large social push to make it the 'normal' status for co-habitating adults of opposite gender. There are other legal ways to make your significant other the recipient of your things if you die before them. And a lot of people dissolve the partnership after time, due to differences that they either can't or won't work through. That, too, though is a development that's pretty recent; used to be really frowned on if you left your spouse.

[gardenerofgaia.livejournal.com]

Resort to? They do it to show their commitment.

...You have someone like that here, though? How sweet.

[justicereigns]

Because it says that's the one person you want to be with for the rest of your life. Forsaking all others.

It's a lot more serious basically.

It's hardly "necessary," but it is an option. I guess some people like the feel of the security involved.

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[lost-koneko.livejournal.com]

Val-nee-chama...? Is Val-nee-chama feeling alright?